How to style a coffee table for calm moments at home

heiter speaks to the idea of finding happiness through intentional living. Approaching the way we live and create mindful displays in our homes can become a gentle invitation to do exactly that.

When I style a table, I don’t begin with objects. I begin with a feeling: how do I want to feel when I sit here?

Calm, inspired, restored… this becomes the thread that quietly ties everything together.

For this coffee table setting, I’ve kept things simple and within reach. A pretty glass bottle is repurposed to hold cuttings from the garden - a resplendent magnolia tree and a little clematis that’s just starting to climb; a nod to the idea of blooming. There’s something grounding about bringing in what’s just outside your door or plucked from a pathway or nearby hedge, it softens the space instantly.

Around it, a few thoughtful elements create both beauty and purpose:
- a favourite magazine, ready to dip into.
- a notebook and pen for capturing passing thoughts.
- a shell to hold incense, a small ritual if the moment calls for it.
- a tiny tray with a few meaningful objects.
- a candle to light as the day begins to soften.

The materials do their own quiet work: glass catches the light, marble reflects it. Brass warms it, forever jewellery for the tableau. Linen and sheepskin on the seating nearby add a softness that balances the shine.

Nothing is crowded. There is space to place a cup of tea. To rest, to pause… to just “be” for a moment.

That balance is important. A coffee table should feel considered but never precious. It’s there to be lived with, used, reset, and styled again.

If you have a busy household, this might look different. You might keep a basket beneath for books, papers or everyday essentials. The notebook handy for a spontaneous game of hangman or noughts and crosses. The key is not perfection, but intention. Even a small surface can hold a sense of order and calm.

I often think of styling as a form of meditation. A quiet editing. A moment to notice what you’re drawn to, what feels right, what can be taken away.

And perhaps that’s the real purpose of a coffee table – not just to hold things, but to hold a mood. A small, everyday space that reflects how you want to feel, and gently brings you back to it.

Emily Chalmers is the founder of Caravan Style, a blend of interior styling, an online shop and Sea Tower, a creative coastal location. She offers 1:1 consultations, working with clients to gently unravel styling dilemmas, refine spaces and bring a renewed sense of clarity and direction.

Her work is rooted in an instinctive, thoughtful approach, creating environments that feel as good as they look and invite calm, creativity and connection. Sea Tower, both family home and shoot location, is an evolving expression of this, designed to inspire and adapt.

Explore more at www.caravanstyle.com and @caravanstyle

Leadership from within: how inner awareness shapes the way we lead

There is something I have never fully understood: why do we put so much effort into managing the outside world when deep down we know that what we experience really depends on the lens we look through.

‘We see people not as they are, but as we are.’ ― Anaïs Nin

We are the lens.

Leadership is no different. We lead from the inside out, often projecting our inner patterns into leadership dynamics without even noticing.

Before working in psychology, I was an architect. More precisely, an urban designer. I worked with frameworks and guidelines that shaped how cities would be built. I was designing streets, neighbourhoods, and public spaces, and often it was very technical.

And yet it was never really about the outside.

I remember reading The Eyes of the Skin by Finnish architect Juhani Pallasmaa. One line spoke to me: ‘Our body is both an object among objects and that which sees and touches them.’ That was a confirmation of what I already felt inside after a few meditation retreats I had attended, but it had to click — that we perceive reality through ourselves. Through the body. Through the mind. Through our internal reality.

That insight stayed with me when I later moved into psychology and leadership work. Or perhaps it was the very reason why I changed fields. Maybe it is the inner world we are meant to understand and take care of before trying to manage the outer one.

But the inner world is not always easy to face. It is intangible. It can feel uncomfortable, even threatening. We might not know where to start. We might carry aspects of ourselves we would rather not see. It is so uncomfortable to deal with doubts, fears, and unmet needs that we try very hard to keep them hidden from others — and from ourselves.

What we tend to forget is that what remains unseen inside us rarely stays contained.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

― C. G. Jung

What we try to hide often shows up through projection. We attribute our own fears, expectations, and beliefs to situations and people around us, and then respond as if they were facts.

In leadership, this happens more often than we realise. A leader who doubts themselves may tighten control. Others create unnecessary urgency and make rushed decisions when uncertainty feels very uncomfortable inside. Doubt and anxiety themselves are not the problem. They are deeply human. The problem is trying to solve something “out there” when it is an echo of something happening within.

I believe everyone is a leader. There is no need to differentiate between leadership at work and leadership in life. We don’t stop being leaders after working hours, as we all influence each other by touching each other’s lives every day and making decisions that impact others. In this sense, leadership from within is something we all take part in.

Becoming aware of the lens we are looking through is leading from within. It means we are not endlessly replaying the same inner patterns but meeting each moment with more clarity. It is about noticing when our reactions come more from our inner world than from the situation in front of us — and recognising that exactly then we have a choice. In my work, I see how even a small shift in awareness can change the entire dynamic of a conversation or decision: a choice to pause and see more clearly.

It is then that leadership becomes less driven by inner tension and more attuned to what is actually needed.

Perhaps this is also what blooming really means. Nothing to resolve or fix, but trusting that there is a seed inside each of us that already carries its own intelligence. A flower does not worry about when or how it will bloom. It responds to its inner intelligence and unfolds in its own time.

Leadership from within is much the same. When we bring gentle attention to our inner world, its nature begins to unfold effortlessly. Our actions become less reactive and more grounded. Our influence becomes less controlling and more supportive. And then we finally realise that we do not need to push so hard — but simply allow the world to see what is already blooming inside.

A few months ago I hosted the TEDxWoodLaneWomen conference in partnership with heiter, giving the stage to 18 female leaders to share their stories on the topic Leadership Within. Listening to the speakers, it was striking how change began with an inner shift and how powerfully that shift shaped the way we lead. The talks will be released soon, and they beautifully reflect how leadership begins to bloom from within.

Anna Kalbasko is a psychologist, inner work coach, TEDx speaker and host. She works with leaders and communities to explore leadership from the inside out, focusing on how our inner world shapes the way we lead and build relationships.