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Words by Josephine Snowling

To slow down or speed up? How pace can help create moments of joy.

May 28, 2023 by Katharina Geissler-Evans in Daily heiter

The pace at which we decide to undertake an activity can directly affect our mood and our enjoyment of an experience. 

But how do we decide whether to slow things down or speed things up?

Firstly let’s look at the impacts of intentionally choosing a slower pace.

Slowing down has become a very focused upon idea, especially in wellness and spiritual communities, and with good reason.  

Slowing our pace can help us to focus in on the activity at hand. It allows for a deeper appreciation of the process and our internal state of being whilst undertaking an activity. When we breathe slowly and deeply, we calm our nervous system and help to reduce the excess noise in our heads, allowing the mind to still, our resistance to subside and our vibration to rise. This replicates the goal of meditation and explains the phenomenon we call ‘flow state’ where the process of focusing in on a particular activity (usually something we are very familiar with or something monotonous) allows us to fall into a meditative state.

In my opinion, slowing your actions is the easiest choice if you want to play around with pace. This is because in most cases, slowing our pace has the greatest impact when it comes to reducing stress, especially when we find ourselves rushing around or our thoughts becoming frantic. 

You may be thinking then that surely slowing our pace is the obvious option and why would we want to increase our pace, when if we can place enough focus and attention on a chosen activity, we can slip into a meditative state. 

But as you’re about to read, increasing your pace can provide just as much benefit and pleasure as slowing your pace.  

Unfortunately the idea of living a fast paced life has earned itself a bad reputation and we have come to associate an increase in speed with burnout, stress and even a lack of consciousness. 

However, I believe that the reason an increase in speed has so many negative connotations is because more often than not, we speed up our actions out of habit or because we feel we have to. 

I’m sure you have examples from your own life where you feel rushed to get out of the door in the morning or to do all the chores before you feel like you can actually relax. All these activities are sped up not through choice or intentionality but due to a feeling of obligation. 

We also fall victim to the incredible power that is momentum and when we are in an undesirable mindset, one of frustration, fear or anxiety, feeling the force of momentum in these states can be a very unenjoyable process. 

It takes approximately 16 seconds for the Law of Attraction to attract to you a thought similar to the thought you were just thinking. This is why meditation or napping is so recommended because what you are actually doing is slowing your momentum. 

We have all experienced those days when everything just seems to go wrong, one thing after another. The reason for this is because we have become stuck in the momentum of negative thoughts and ultimately attracting experiences through emitting a negative vibration. 

But if we get ourselves into a place of alignment, where we align our thoughts and our emotions with ones that reside in a positive vibration, then feeling the momentum and experiencing first hand the fast pace that is Law of Attraction, can actually become an exhilarating experience, one with no burnout in sight. 

So the key to enjoying a faster pace is to take control of our thoughts, to remain in that meditative state whilst our pace increases. This will not only give us a feeling of thrill and exhilaration but our accuracy will also remain intact. 

A good example of this is a professional sports player or athlete. I always think about this when I watch Roger Federer playing tennis. He is able to move his body with speed and accuracy, all whilst remaining calm and in complete control and this is how he makes it look effortless. 

This effortless state, performed at high speed, is one that we can tap into, even in our everyday lives and doesn’t have to be reserved for elite sports players. 

To do this we must become well acquainted with our own inner landscape. This is where playing around with our pace can benefit us enormously. If we feel frantic, anxious or irritated, this is our cue to slow our pace, to bring ourselves back into a more grounded state of being. 

And when we feel comfortable and stable in this grounded state, this is when we can deliberately choose to increase the pace, all the while keeping a check on our emotions, as these are our ultimate indicator of whether our pace is too much. And if we feel ourselves slipping back into those negative thoughts and the momentum taking us (creating one negative experience after another), we can drop back into stillness until we find ourselves effortlessly riding the wave, increasing and slowing our pace as required. 

There are certain activities which you can use to really test this out in your own life, to play around with and explore the effects of pace and ultimately find on any given day which pace increases your Heiterkeit (which is the noun that come with heiter) of an activity:

  • Dancing

  • Cleaning, tidying, cooking, everyday activities

  • Making love

  • Exercise: slower paced activities such as yoga vs fast paced HIIT workouts

  • Work activities: conversations, general work pace, presentations

  • Music: what effects do different paced pieces of music have on your emotional state?

Even meditation can be a great container for playing around with pace. Whilst meditating, you could choose to remain in a slower state, focusing on slowing your thoughts and breathing or once you are in that grounded state you could choose to try something like a rampage of appreciation. 

This process was first coined by Abraham Hicks and if you’ve ever listened to one of these performed by Esther Hicks, you will know how fast they are (type in Abraham Hicks rampage of appreciation into YouTube to get the full experience). 

So you could choose to listen to someone else carrying this out (Michael Beckwith is another fantastic motivational speaker) or you could do your own. A rampage of appreciation is simply saying or thinking words of affirmation, describing your thoughts and feelings around a particular subject, all with an undertone of appreciation and excitement. Once you get started and into that flow state you will experience first hand attraction at a pace of 16 seconds and witness how quickly the momentum will take you. 

Remember, there is no right or wrong pace to undertake anything, all is personal preference depending on your current state of consciousness and vibration. What works one day, might not the next, the enjoyment comes from playing around with this until you find your sweet spot. 

Josephine Snowling is a writer, teacher and entrepreneur who shares her own personal truth, understanding and insight of how this reality works and how you can learn to come home to yourself so that you may consciously manifest the life you desire.

Image by James Lee (via Unsplash)

May 28, 2023 /Katharina Geissler-Evans
mindfulness, intuition, positive mindset, joyful living
Daily heiter
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Words: Alexandra Sebire

Building self-love: 3 daily practices

May 21, 2023 by Katharina Geissler-Evans in Daily heiter

Self-love is more than just bubble baths, it’s more than a cute slogan on a t-shirt or a snazzy present to yourself. It’s a slow journey filled with understanding who you are, who you were and who you will be - and like all relationships it’s a constant work in progress. 

Unfortunately that isn’t the story we’ve been sold. Self-love in the digital age looks like marriage with kids, doctored selfies, jet-setter holidays, luxury apartments and a full bank account. What if I told you that where you are right now is enough, what you’re starting with right now is enough? You probably wouldn’t believe me, and that’s okay. However, by the end of this article, I hope to have changed your mind. Self-love is free to incorporate into your life, but it does take determination and perseverance to not go back to that old relationship with yourself.

It is not vain to love yourself and see all the pieces. It is not narcissistic either. It’s a necessary part to building a healthy life, and all the elements that go hand in hand with that.

What I want you to do with these practices is to see and make peace with all the parts of yourself, and then slowly - over time - fall in love with yourself. Because you’re worth it, and if anyone should end up feeling lucky enough to spend the rest of their life with you - it should be yourself x

CHANGE YOUR PRIMARY VOICE

What does the conversation in your head sound like? Often, your default primary voice is the voice of a critical figure in your childhood. You probably go about your day being told a string of sentences that featured heavily in your life when you were growing up, none of them were true then and none of them are true now. 

Your primary voice should be a comforting support system, the one voice in your life that cheers you on when you succeed and helps you continue when things are tough. It doesn’t ask anything in return, but it does require you to constantly push that critical voice into silence and pull that kinder one forward. If you struggle thinking of someone who supported you as a child, imagine your older self talking to your younger self and think of the words you’d have liked to have heard. Then talk to yourself with those words, all day every day.

Have your primary tell you it’s going to be okay, even when it feels like it’s not. Have it tell you how amazing you look even when your nose is all bunged up with hayfever. Have it tell you you’re doing great, even when you just got the answer wrong. Have it tell you it loves you, even on the days you feel unlovable.

Change your primary voice, it will change your life.

DATE YOURSELF

We spend a lot of our lives focusing on getting into, cultivating and continuing romantic relationships. They’re all over the media we consume, from the films we grew up on as children to the stories we now read, the adverts that sell us cars/perfume/sofas, and it’s usually the first question we get asked when we meet up with our closest friends. 

Dating is the first step in the game of love, and you’re considered lucky if you can still say that you feel like you’re dating your partner a year on, let alone twenty years on. I’m going to argue that other people aren’t the only individuals we need to date, cultivate and continue the romance with. We need to do that with ourselves too. 

So much of the time we spend in a relationship is wasted expecting someone else to be able to know how to love us. In fact most of us will often use other relationships as a crutch for the one we have with ourselves; dating yourself is the first step away from that crutch. 

Walk out into the world and treat yourself to your favourite thing once a week that you would want a partner to treat you to. Watch a show, take a trip somewhere new, dress up and dance in your kitchen, eat in your favourite cafe. Whatever you look for someone else to do for you in a relationship, do it for yourself first so that you know how to love yourself and you know what to ask for when someone else asks how love you too. 

SMILE

Every day you see yourself in the mirror. When you clean your teeth, when you stand in the changing room, when you go to the toilet at work, when you pass the bakery at lunch, when you fix your hair in your phone camera. 

You’re everywhere you go, and unfortunately most people, (especially women) feel uncomfortable with their reflection. So every day I want you to wake up and the first thing I want you to do when you see yourself in a mirror, is to smile at yourself. Every day when you wake up, that’s the first thing you do. Smile even if you don’t want to, even if it feels silly.

We always smile when we see people we love; be they friends, family, pets, partners. And we think they’re beautiful when they smile back; we feel happy to see them, and we know that they are also happy to see us. So smile at yourself, because somewhere inside of you is a kid who’s a little bit hurt, a little bit unsure and all they want is to see you smile - so they know that you’re happy to see them too.

You can find Alexandra on Instagram @solemniko and every other week on her podcast Notes From A Small Room (having the self-love conversations they won’t put on a t-shirt). Alexandra is a writer, artist, coach and creator of the How We Came To Be Project initiaitve. You can find resources on her website for journaling and building a healthy, loving relationship with yourself; as well as business and creative services.

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May 21, 2023 /Katharina Geissler-Evans
self-care, choosing joy, joyful living
Daily heiter
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